This is a collection of relationship tips for breaking up that I’ve formulated over the years of breakups that I’ve gone through. Relationships are great when both people share chemistry, and are committed to each other. However, just like all other good. things, relationships do come to an end. Please learn from my experiences so that this difficult time will be as easy as possible for you.
Relationship tips – What not to do:
- Don’t deny your logic/feelings. At the point of a breakup you must know logically and emotionally that staying together is not the best course of action for either person.
- Don’t play the blame game. This can lead to the stirring up of negative emotions that you don’t want to deal with at this time.
- Most importantly, don’t delay ending a negative relationship. This can be painful, and you may want to hurt your partner as little as possible. However, the relationship will not lead anywhere good if you try to make it work despite obvious signs to the contrary.
Relationship tips – What to do:
- Being direct is best. If ever there is time for directness in the relationship now is it. Don’t try to avoid facing the emotional pain by being vague. You need to stay strong, and take responsibility for what is best for both of you.
- Honesty is important. There are times in a relationship when a little white lie may be OK. This is not one of those times, and being dishonest now can lead to more pain down the road. Definitely avoid any type of lies or invented stories at this point.
- Break up at once. Some people try to prolong the process by going through break up stages. Whenever I’ve done this we’d just go back together into a relationship that wasn’t good for either side.
Don’t delay ending a relationship. Once you know you want to break up with someone, it does not help if you deny what you feel. Your partner will sense a change, perhaps reaching out for reassurance. This may feel like “neediness” to you which will increase your feelings of being stuck.